#1 goal is to make sure that the bride’s wishes are carried out the way that she wants them to be.  The mother of the bride is there to help her to make sure that what she wants and what she needs happens. 

It is very important that the mother of the bride allows for the bride’s tastes, desires and needs to be provided for.  This does not mean that they can dictate what happens, but rather should insure that what does is what the bride wants.

As one of the largest role players, here are her responsibilities:

-    The Wedding Attire.  The mother of the bride should help to find the perfect dress for the wedding, including undergarments and accessories.  Not your tastes, but hers should come through.

-    Guest Lists.  The mother of the bride should help to organize guest lists, coordinating with the mother of the groom.  If the mother of the groom does not contact her, she should make the first attempt. 

-    Help the bride and groom determine their wedding budget.  While she should not do all the work, she should help them allocate where money is going and what are the important aspects to consider.

-    Out of Town Guests.  Those guests that are coming from out of town on the bride’s side of the family should be well taken care of by the mother of the bride. 

Arranging accommodations and transportation for them is her responsibility.  Often this can be minimized if a block of rooms is available to guests at the local hotels as needed by the mother of the bride.

-    Wedding Gowns.  You will select your wedding dress first, but you need to immediately tell the mother of the groom what style and color it is so that she can match or coordinate hers with yours.

-    Wedding Ceremony.  The mother of the bride will need to insure that all the direction for the wedding is given and understood.  Where will people stand, sit and how it all will happen are just a few of these concerns.  Insure that the receiving line is set up properly as well.

-    Hostess.  As the mother of the bride, you are the hostess of the reception.  Have someone help you to plan and execute it.

Asian dating services are means for Western men to get married with Asian brides effectively. Many Asian women register their profile with beautiful photos so that singles can contact them. Generally speaking, Asian women are very beautiful and hard workers, as well as educated. They want to change their lives by getting married with Western men. Some Asian girls can speak and understand English, but some have the language barrier. The most important reason that Asian women like getting married with Western guys is because they are treated and respected better than Asian men do. We have seen many Asian dating services online which help Western men to meet with Asian girls and get married through a Asian agency or by themselves. Many Asian girls have come to America by getting married with Western men through these Asian dating sites. 

There are free Asian dating services and pay ones so online singles can select which one they need to register to. Most of Asian online agencies provide free registration, then charge members a fee to contact with members. There are some free Asian singles services that offer 100% free to their members because they really want to help Western guys with Asian ladies. These free dating sites usually have some ads on the web site to pay for the host and domain. Statistics in recent years show that online Asian dating services generate thousand of marriages a year. There are some Asian scams who take this advantage as a means to scam Western men’s money. But this rarely happen now because Asian women are screened for any criminal background before selection through Internet agencies. Free Asian dating services just provide free dating services for members and you will be on your way after you get the other information, such as email address.

We see many Asian dating services booming on this modern electronic world. Thanks to this modern electronic world, we can meet each other online just as a matter of minutes, through instant messenger or chat rooms or web cams. The matter is that you need to be careful when dealing with specific members. Care is always the first policy that we all need to pay attention to. Not every profile on these Asian dating web sites are good profiles. Nobody guarantee this. Website owners do not have time to review each profile that is posted on their on line dating services. Also, some Asian females who just want to get married with Western men to come to that country. They will get divorced right after they get green card. So, you must be careful to learn from your Asian female before making decision to bring her to America. There are some dating tips for Western men and Asian brides: before deciding to get married with a Asian lady or Western men, please think about it carefully. Getting married is a big thing in your life. Good luck and have fun.

So, are you ready to find special Asian brides? Do not wait. Take action now. Join these free Asian dating services to find that special soul mate of your dream.

Why are Chinese women looking for Western men? What’s the attraction? A typical shallow answer could be : money and a non Chinese passport.  I have to admit that there are some Chinese women with this in their mind. However, they do not present the majority of Chinese women nowadays.

First, let’s take a look at the reality in China. If you ask a Chinese man ‘what is your first requirement of  a future girlfriend or wife?’ I can assure you that 90% of them will say ‘a beautiful woman’.  It seems a tradition in China that men must have a beautiful woman so that they can impress their friends/colleagues/acquaintances etc. Even walking down the street with a beautiful woman on his arm is something to be proud of. A man who has an ‘ugly’ girlfriend or wife might reluctantly go to public places with the woman and feel embarrassed to introduce her to his friends. Why is their vanity so strong?  This definitely has something to do with the so called ‘Face’ . According to one Asian scholar, Ting-Toomey (1988), ‘face’ is a ‘strategy that protects self-respect and individual identity.’ Losing face could mean losing respect from other people. Other people’s opinions are so important to Chinese people that they can not be ignored. Having an ‘ugly’ girlfriend or wife shows that the man is incompetent in some way. Gaining a beautiful woman’s heart is regarded as a challenge which is to be encouraged by men. Whoever wins a beautiful woman is a hero, or so he thinks. It is not uncommon to see Chinese guys who have pretty girlfriends or wives showing off their ladies’ pictures in public forums on the internet . The title would normally be ‘ Check out my beautiful girlfriend(wife)’ etc. The man who posts his woman’s pictures would be highly satisfied from compliments by the public. Most Chinese men would deny that they regard their women as accessories. However, they do to a certain extent.

An interesting social phenomenon in China is, if a woman is divorced or a single parent, no matter how beautiful her appearance is, she would be what people called ‘second-hand goods’ which are mostly unwanted. Even the man himself does not mind the woman’s past, however his family would mind. The pressure from his family will often force the man giving up on the woman.

What about a girl who has never married? Well, she has to be careful if she is over the age 28 as she is considered a bit old for most Chinese men of the same age.

It is shameful that most Chinese men haven’t realised that this is very unfair for those called ‘second hand’ or ‘old’ women. They are actually the most beautiful women in my eye. They are more mature; They have experienced some ups and downs in their life; They have probably made some mistakes in their love life before so they know what to do to make a relationship work better. They are just like a good wine, They mature and become gracious with age.

For women who are married to Chinese men, they usually have a common fear that the husband will find someone younger and prettier outside of the marriage. Nowadays it seems popular for married men to have one or more mistresses in China .

In 2008 an online questionnaire of love and marriage was completed by 9021 Chinese men and 5002 Chinese woman. Most men and women chose ‘No’ to the question of ‘Do you believe in eternal love’; Most men chose ‘No’ to the question of ‘will you be loyal to your marriage?’ and most women chose ‘yes’ to the same question; Most men chose ‘ I can somehow find the balance between my wife and the mistress(es)’ to the question of ‘what will you do when there is a possible affair’ and most women chose ‘ I will be stick with my husband and family’.

The divorce rate in China is rising rapidly. There have been more than 1 million Chinese couples divorced every year since 1995. Almost 50% of the divorce cases are due to affairs. Chinese women are famous for their strong family values and loyalty. Unfortunately, more and more Chinese men don’t appreciate those qualities anymore.

So now, what’s the attraction of Western men to Chinese women? Chinese women appreciate honesty in a relationship, a virtue which many Chinese men are lacking. Western open-mindedness makes Chinese women feel more secure in the relationship. The inbuilt competitiveness of Chinese culture especially in the workplace places an unnecessary amount of stress in a relationship. The shallowness of male Chinese thinking regarding their lifestyle is more pronounced.

Most Chinese women are looking for a loving caring relationship and to have those feelings reciprocated. Normal human emotions between 2 people need not be judged by nationality.

Why are so many American men seeking brides from abroad when there are so many single women at home? There are several reasons:

(1) Nobody at home wants to marry them (in some cases)

Unfortunately, the popular image of the alcoholic, abusive loser who takes a foreign bride because no local woman will marry him is sometimes accurate. It would certainly be painting with too broad a brush to say that all American men who seek international brides are like this, the abusive personality does seem to be well represented among men seeking bride from overseas. It makes a lot of sense when you think about it – the foreign bride often knows very little about her husband when she comes over. By the time she discovers who he really is, she is far from home, economically dependent, unable to afford to go back home, and sometimes pregnant. Abusers sometimes take full advantage of this situation by forcing their brides to submit to treatment that few American women would put up with.

(2) Citizenship in a prosperous Western nation greatly increases their position in the marriage market. The hope of a new life in rich America (or some other Western country) is certainly the top reason why women from third world countries wish to marry Western men (if you don’t think so, ask yourself how many of these women pursue men from Peru or Indonesia). Since the number of women is far greater than the number of Western men looking for them, supply and demand favors the Western man. It thus becomes no problem at all for a man in his 50s to marry a 20-year-old Chinese model, for example.

(3) A lot of American men don’t like American women. One could say that opposite attract, but complaints abound among a certain segment of American men that feminism has gone too far, that it no longer has anything to do with equal rights or fairness, and that it has morphed US women into a third gender – neither masculine nor feminine, confused about their gender identity, and forever competing rather than cooperating to prove that “women can do anything men can do”. This silent war between the sexes creates a competitive atmosphere, some say, that destroys any chance for true intimacy between spouses. Because of this, American men turn to foreign countries to find a bride (and American women increasingly look overseas for husbands!).

Chinese Weddings

Chinese weddings are often steeped in tradition. Thus, for Chinese wedding dresses, red is normally the traditional color and white is not recommended. The red color also applies to many Asian cultures. Red is preferred because it is central to most of their themes. From wedding favors, invitations to dresses, the color red always features prominently. From the decorations to the bride’s dress, red must be visible.

Chinese Wedding Dress

The traditional bridal dress is usually a one-piece frock referred to as Qi Pao, embroidered using elaborate silver and gold designs. Southern China brides normally wear a two-piece called Cheongsam or Qun Gua Kwa, which is also adorned, elaborately by golden dragon and phoenix. The dress is normally red in color because red is believed to be a strong good luck color keeping away evil spirits.

Traditionally, a red veil piece was part of the bride’s outfit for covering her face during the ceremony. Phoenix and dragon bridal dress designs symbolized the balance of female and male power. The bride is often seen with the red veil that covering her head and sometimes her face. Among the most prominent features in these weddings is the bridal gown. A majority of the brides wear up to six dresses in a single wedding night. Nothing matches the passion and charm of red Chinese wedding dresses in the ceremony.

Choosing a Chinese Wedding Dress

Choosing the wedding gown is a very important decision. The dress sets the tone of the entire ceremony and therefore the bride should feel special and comfortable in the gown. It is vital to ensure this while choosing the dress. Thus, one is advised to shop at a renowned designer to ensure authenticity. However, one should consider their budgets before making a purchase. With this, one should also consider alternate options for instance, renting the wedding gown.

Some prospective couples prefer a themed ceremony to complement their renaissance or medieval wedding dress. For them, nothing utters romance than traveling back in time. Whatever dresses a bride decides to allocate for their wedding, choosing a dress that exudes the beauty and aura of the bride in the best manner possible. A bride can choose a gown with traditional embellishments looking like a bell-shaped skirt with a modern fitting or lace made using satin and decorated with beautiful frills. Select long Chinese wedding dresses with mind-blowing decorations made of flower patterns. Some embroidery and beadwork can add up to the dress’s beauty.

The dresses are mostly presented with long low lines; choose cut sleeves to present one in a moderate way. Consider a large selection of marriage dresses that come in different materials, sizes and styles for a Chinese bridal gown. When ordering a gown, always give one’s right measurements. Give it arty to see if it fits and point out all shortcomings and correct them.

A wedding is a special moment therefore the wedding gown chosen must serve to exude this importance in the entire ceremony. Every bride should ensure that the attire chosen is comfortable so that she is at ease in all the activities of that special day.