Hey guys, here are a couple of tips that will make beautiful Chinese women become attracted to you.
Men generally don’t feel comfortable saying “I really like you” to the woman they really like. I can understand why because I am one of those men – it brings back bad memories – I used to get rejected and felt badly insulted if the feelings are not mutual. So for a long time, I used the ”play hard to get” strategy but honestly, it doesn’t work. Why? Especially Chinese women, they generally felt insulted with this strategy and as such, the ill feelings keep adding up along the way and eventually it becomes a game where they just want you to like them back but you will never be able to build a deep connection with them. Think about it, unlike men, women generally have good memories of the past and trust me, they don’t forget if you have insulted them previously.
So, how can you tell a Chinese girl that you really like her without her coming back to bite you back in the ass i.e. without hurting her feelings? One way is to compliment her if she really deserves it. Such as, I know many men must be attracted to your good looks but, what I really like about you is your character. Another way is to check out synonyms for the word “nice” in the dictionary and use the one you feel most comfortable. At least it shows you are committed to it instead of just saying, “It is OK”.
If you are still using the “play hard to get” strategy, please beware - women will try their best to destroy your chances of building a deep emotional connection with them. Why? It shows that you are a real jerk and no women would like to go out with someone like that unless they have extremely low self esteem.
I don’t know the kind of women you like nor the type of women who likes you but this is what I know. By focusing on building deep emotional feelings, women will be consistently attracted to you, especially Chinese women. I hope after reading this will help to improve your love life.
All the best.
Asian ladies from the Philippines, Thailand, China and Vietnam are increasingly being courted by western men. Filipina ladies seem to draw the most attention from foreign guys. This is rooted in the fact that English is taught as a second language in the Philippines. Being able to communicate effectively is a definite plus when trying to form any relationship.
What this means is that many men from abroad choose the Philippines when searching for an Asian partner. Guys are also drawn to the traditional family values found in Filipina women, which are said to be lacking in the west. Finally, many American and European men have simply become disillusioned with domestic dating. They have decided to try their luck internationally.
While it is easy to stereotype these couples, doing so does not change the fact that most of the relationships are real. The social dynamics behind it are too complicated to explain with the outdated “mail order bride” terminology. Asian ladies are not delivered to men through the postal service, and you cannot buy them off a shelf. This is 2009 and the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) verifies the legitimacy of any relationship before a couple can begin their lives together.
As the webmaster at Melinda’s Filipina and Asian Dating I have seen thousands of new members sign up. The ratio of western men to Filipina ladies is about 50/50. Some stick around for years while others delete their membership within hours. Most of my knowledge about east/west couples comes from those that remain active on our forum. Reading endless topics and threads has given me a first hand perspective on these relationships. I can often predict which members have a real shot at finding a lifetime partner by reading their posts.
The members that have the most success are in the least hurry to find someone. They are curious and open to finding a partner, but they are not proclaiming their love to other members after two weeks. They seem to move at a certain pace which indicates they are interested but have not lost their common sense.
The members that jump to fast, get emotionally and financially involved too quickly, are the ones that usually crash and burn. I truly believe that you cannot hurry love. When people do they run the risk of falling in love with the “process” and not the person on the other end of the keyboard or web cam. This mistake seems to play out too often and it is difficult to watch.
When Filipina ladies and western men take the necessary time to really know each other the outcomes can be rewarding. These include happy marriages, families, and in many cases a life long commitment. However, even for these couples there are many barriers. It will take the ultimate commitment to overcome them. Besides the separation issues, there are other complicating factors which can delay or even derail things. The most common issues are usually financial, and dealing with the USCIS. One cannot underestimate the toll these two things alone can take on a couple.
I would just like to conclude by saying that we all want happiness. Normally this involves finding someone that we can share your hopes and dreams with. Whether it is a the girl next door, or someone on the other side of the world, geography no longer has to be the deciding factor. However, international dating is still only meant for people that are resourceful, sensible and dedicated to the process.